Reaping Happiness


You can only find happiness when you have sincerely dedicated your life to the service of others in your society. Every individual has the right to pursue happiness. We need to cultivate the habit of helping others; it is what is inborn within every individual. It should be our innermost craving if we want to be happy. Every individual desires happiness but only a few know where to find it and these few are those who are ever ready to obey the will of God as concerning servicing others.

Every morning we need a big dose of sunshine medicine to brighten our day. We shall rise every morning with the declaration, "This is the day the lord has made; we will rejoice and be glad in it". Following this declaration, we must make a decision that each day of our lives will be a day of happiness.

We must keep in mind that happy people are successful people. "Happiness has a habit of pursuing the person who feels grateful, comfortable with his conscience, in favor with his friends, in love with his labors and in balance with his banker". Someone correctly stated, "The secret of happiness is learning to accept the impossible and bear the intolerable".

True happiness has always been discovered to be elusive in a secular and materialistic world. The secular person always looks up to events and activities that will entertain him, however, this will not bring long lasting peace. He forgets that happiness is not something you experience. On the other hand, the materialist always looks for the right possessions, forgetting that happiness is not something that can be bought or owned.

Happiness as we must understand is not yearning for the things that we feel will make us happy. We need to know that money cannot buy us happiness. It only prolongs our ultimate search in the right direction. We struggle most times trying to find that which seems to be so elusive. Many people find only monetary happiness in things and activities and subsequently deceive themselves into thinking that they have acquired their goal.

True happiness is an exclusive dream to the one who keeps himself busy with earthly diversions. The secularist must remember that happiness is not discovered in the things we want. Seneca once wrote, "If you would make a man happy , do not add to his possessions, but subtract from his desires". There are few suggestion here to begin one's road to a happy disposition of life. These simple keys will at least point one in the right direction to what is often an elusive goal for too many people; the goal of being happy.

Happiness Is A Habit People Develop:

We may find it difficult to understand that ninety-five percent of our behavior is simply a habit we develop subconsciously, that is why we do that which we have always done. In our lives, every individual needs a happy habit, therefore, we must develop a habit a habit of simply being happy. Norman Vincent Peale wrote, "The happiness habit is developed by simply practicing happy thinking. Make a mental list of happy thoughts and pass them through your mind several times every ".

The thought and desire to be happy is the very first step to becoming happy. Former President Abraham Lincoln once said, "Most folks are about as happy as they make up their mind to be". The truth is that we must first make up our mind to be happy and then sit ourselves to the task of accomplishing our set desire for happiness. This of course sounds too simple, but it is not. Happiness is planned, not accidental.

Most people can be happy in times when everything seems to be going right, or going their way. But this surface happiness is tied in the balance of life and found wanting when things go wrong. In the brochure, Attitudes Unlimited, which was written for exclusives of corporations in Dallas Texas, it stated, "People can smile when everything goes along smoothly… but the valiant one is that person who can still smile when adversities beset him from all directions".

Truly happy people have learned that happiness originates from that which is within, not from that which affects one from without. Once happy habits are developed from within, then our environment has little effect on our inner emotional and mental state of being. We must always remember that developing happiness habit comes from our inside work, regardless of our past or our present circumstances.

Happy People Focus On Good Works:

Our problem in life is that most times we look for, or do something that causes problems amongst us as we do our normal businesses. Human minds are made in such a way by God that naturally we do not remember bad experiences. We tend to remember great experiences with people, events that brought us happiness and joy. Our mind naturally suppresses bad experiences but focus on good experiences.

Our happiness today must not be determined by our past history of bad experiences. Our minds, the way we are made naturally, do not want us to determine our present state of mind by our past experiences. There is no way one can build a happy present state of mind over guilt of things in the past. Happiness depends on not worrying about tomorrow. True happiness is developed not externally controlled.

Once we mentally forecast bad times to come, we will unconsciously work towards our forecast. The opposite is also true. If we believe and anticipate that things will be better, sure enough they will be better. There us no reason whatsoever for us to ask for trouble when we don not have to be delivered a bag of troubled goods. Let us not for any reason allow life to dictate to us our mental state of mind. We can on our own choose to be happy. And we can only do so by focusing on good in order to determine our emotional destiny. Our present state of mind is our choice. Neither the environment nor people with whom we work can determine our happiness.
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Cultivating Patience



In life, the personality characteristic with which all of us struggle is patience. A famous saying goes, "Patience is a minor form of despair, disguised as a virtue". Lack of being patient in all that we do or expect is the flaw we first see in ourselves and the one from which we reap a host of negatives in our relationships with others. To our self control, we need to add patience. With our human nature, we possibly needed more than addition to patience. We indeed, need multiplication. Impatience has ended in too much strife, heartaches, apologies for nonsense we have spoken, for which we have had to repent.

Patience is very necessary in establishing good relationships. If we discover that we are very impatient, then we must work on that to have a change. It is our responsibility to recognize areas of cause in order to deal with the effect of impatience.

Patience Leads to Violence

We blame others most times for our misfortune, forgetting that no matter how little patience we have with the mistakes of others, we always have lots of patience with our own. In our lives, how many of our friends have we forgiven for not performing as we think they should?

Goethe said, "Tolerance comes with age; I see no fault committed that I myself could not have committed at some time or other". We need to understand that in the way we judge, we will also be judged.

Patience consists of feeling and seeing things with your heart instead of your hands and eyes. In our relationship, we need to allow a tender heart to rule all our judgments. We need to free ourselves by allowing others to be themselves around us. It is only when we tender mercy to the faults of others by reflecting on our own imperfections, that patience will reign in our relationships.

Communication Gap Causes Impatience:

Lack of skills on how to carry on a discussion with another person causes us to assume things the other person does not have in his or her mind, or even intends to say. This is the result of our impatience that has been generated by a moment of temper or haste which causes us to blurt out something that was never in mind of one with whom we have presumed to be communicating. Think back, how many times have we beaten a friend or loved one before we understood the whole truth? How many times have we struck a blow with our tongue before we communicated?

Where We Need To Be Patient:

There are areas where we need to work on our patience, having identified some of the causes. In our lives some people have been discovered to have patience in particular areas of their lived wherein, others they have a great deal of problem with maintaining control of their person.

There are those who are patient in working for a personal goal, but impatient relating with those with whom they have to work in order to accomplish projected goals. We are always patient with our own work, but impatient with other people's work as far as such concerns us.

We need to work on our patience in all areas of our lives. We need to take the patience we have in one area of life and spread it over the totality of our behavior, especially when working with other people for increased productivity. When dealing with people in general, a lot of patience is needed.

Shakespeare message was right, "How poor are they who have not patience". Truly poverty in patience leads us to have poor relationships with others.
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Fact About Doubt

19 April
Fact About Doubt


We often doubt unknown information passed to us by friends or close family relations, particularly information we consider top secret for public consumption. We have the right to doubt. However, our response obligates us. We are obligated to search for a reason for our doubt. We must investigate, search, dig and study. We have no right whatsoever to doubt if we are not willing to study or investigate in an honest manner that which is doubted.

Our doubting is often too frivolous and uncalled for because we are too quick to doubt what one says particularly that which is new and not according to our traditional way of thought. We are thus too hard on ourselves. Our inability to change in order to incorporate new information into our thinking and behavior leads to us to be quick to be challenged by others who might question us.
When it comes to the subject of doubt, it is usually not a problem of doubt in what others say, but in ourselves. We burden ourselves with countless questions. We thus, reside in the dark room of self inflicted doubt. A doubter has a whole lot of territory to cover , the uncontrolled doubter is always a skeptic. He is skeptical of all that can not be identified by the five senses. As Christians, our questions should drive us to seek answers. The skeptic simply gives up on faith and is satisfied to live in a world of lingering questions. The fact remains that we all have some doubts. Sometimes we even doubt our own faith. There is nothing unnatural about doubting. The problem is not with doubting, it is however with our unwillingness to do as the Bereans. If doubt does not drive us to searching, then we are not honest with ourselves. If we doubt what someone has said, we a not fair to the one we doubt if we are unwilling to investigate that which is said. If we ever doubt our own beliefs, then we are not fair to ourselves if we do not search for answers.

Doubt that resides in a Lethargic mind has found a permanent residence. A doubter is one who is unable to accept anything. He is one who makes questing his hobby and therefore, never ready to accept even the truth from the Bible. We must as God’s children be vigilant about dealing with those that cause doubt.

Ignorance of the bible causes doubt. One’s ignorance of the Bible often results to our doubts about the truth contend in the holy book. Out of ignorance some often accused the Bible to be a book of fable, myths and contradictions. They draw these conclusions without carrying out an in-depth investigation of the text of the Bible is preserved in a way that will lead those who are searching to a knowledge of God and his salvation for man. People who are searching for their salvation know that it is only the Bible that is the answer for a heart of doubt.

Those who know little about the Bible have not studied it enough to understand that the Bible has come down to us through history in a manner that God has wanted it to come to us. If a copyist stumbled here and there over making copies of the text, God only allowed such to happen in order to test our faith in His word. We may blame a copyist of the Bible for not being perfect but we cannot blame God for allowing the copyist to do his work, regardless of his imperfections. We simply know that we have the Bible today in a  form that God intended that we have it m

Considering doubt’s of the contents of the bible, if we are honest to ourselves, we shall realize that one’s life style may make him prejudiced concerning judgments the bible makes about vs in in our lives. Doubt that is based on a rejection of Bible truths because of sin in our lives is not fair. It is a doubt that is generated by an act of rebellion towards our Creator.

At one point or another we often doubt our personal beliefs, particularly as it concerns our religious behavior, we of then question what we are doing. Obviously, if our doubts drive us to investigation, then we are on our way to a strong faith. However if our doubts remain unanswered, then our faith will often crash and burn. In that case, one becomes like the one about whom the saying goes to; “A skeptic is a man who has faith in nothing except in his own lack of faith”.
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Foundation of Faith

19 April


Many people in he course of trying to solve their problems wonder why there would be a discussion of faith as far as one’s life is concerned. This is the problem of the world in which we live.

There is no doubt that we live in a faithless world, a world that has allowed itself to be stripped of any standard for moral and ethical behavior. Supposing there is no God, then of course there will be no authority that exists outside our own moral inventions. President Vladimir Putin once said, “Nothing but religion can make human values known to people”.

If there is no eternal standard of moral an ethical authority outside ourselves, then we are on our own to develop moral and ethical standards by which to live.

The problem of this freedom to determine our moral and ethical standards is that humans are terrible inventors when it comes to determining what is either right or wrong.

The tendency is that we most times digress to inventing moral rules that appeal to our own desires. We must keep in mind that once we refuse to conduct our lives according to the precepts of our creator, then we are left as ships without anchors on a sea of social disorientation.

We need to understand and very clearly that developing character, establishing relationships, being productive individuals and of course being the best we can be, are life challenges that have limits when we have no personal religious faith. It is for this very reason that we will never be truly oriented in life unless we are oriented around our father in heaven.

Having God's consciousness in all that we do brings riches into our life and success into our challenge to develop as a person. Any course on life orientation that doesn’t focus on the religious yearning of human spirit has simply fails to be a complete course. As religious beings, if we refuse to recognize our religious nature, then we are ignoring the development of the total person. “Responsible citizenship and character building is based on the level of one’ sense of accountability he or she has towards divine authority”. This is why responsible government must at all times do their best by establishing laws that guarantee the religious freedom of its people.

The sure way to conduct our lives with dignity and self-control is when we realize that we will be held accountably then anarchy will exist in our personal Lives and in society in general. Everyone would do as he or she pleases because all have lost the sense of accountability in society. The result will be violating of the rights of our fellow man. A clear sense of accountability guarantee that we do not violate the human rights of others.

We must keep in mind that only by submitting to law shall there be true freedom. Citizens, who dwell in nations that are governed by the rule of law, always maintain a respect for the rights of one another. Human rights cannot exist in nations that are not governed by the rule of law. Rule y law is our guarantee for freedom.

God allows government to create civil laws so that we do not bring ourselves into the bondage of any man's twisted desires to steal our freedom. We are only set free by law. God seeks to guard us against ourselves. He wants to protect us from those who would bring us into bondage by their own selfish desires for power.

Once leaders refuse to recognize both civil law and the higher law of God, they by so doing destroy the freedom of individual citizens. God has in his infinite mercy established a higher rule of law for man for the overall good of mankind. By making God’s law the final rule of our personal lives, we are guaranteed freedom, even though the practices of man may bring us into captivity. National unity should always be based on a nation that is united under one God. It is for this reason therefore, that all men must develop a sense of responsibility to the will of God. This is the part religion plays in the development of great citizens and great nations. Once the citizens of nations do their best to respect the rule of higher laws in their lives, great nations are surely developed. It is by the feelings of a sense of accountability to God and of course a higher law than the civil law of the land. Again nations are unified only when the citizens unite together in honoring God their creator.

The truly God-fearing person will be the best citizen of any nation. He or she will be the best citizen simply because he or she sees an authority beyond national government. A truly God-fearing citizen behaves according to the laws of the land because he or she behaves according to the higher laws of God. It is inly when we realize that we will surely give account of our actions before God that we will behave honorably in our relationships with our fellow man. It is therefore, very important to understand some of the key moral and ethical principles that are a part of religious faith, and thus, in order to be complete as the must consider these fundamental principles of religion.



Once we obey and honor these principles, we will by so doing guard ourselves against unfortunate consequences that come as a result of violating these moral and ethical principles. If we violate these principles, then we must expect in turn to reap what we sow. It is for this very reason that every person must seriously look at righteous principles by which he or she can live life for the good of mankind.
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Principles In Character Building

16 April
Principles In Character Building


Greatness is seen more in our character, that is why great leaders always base their behavior and decision on the power of moral principles. They are always ready to acknowledge and submit to a higher authority. Dictators do not and will never make this acknowledgement as a leader and that is why they most often seem harsh, dictatorial, selfish and tyrannical.

All great allow themselves to be dictated and controlled by the principles of one to whom they feel they must give account of their behavior. If not to man, then to God. It is for this very reason, the best leaders are those men and women who have a great faith in God and in all that they do as leaders. Their faith moves them to establish principles of good conduct in their lives.
God because of his love created humans, we must therefore assume that he alone has the right to define the best characteristics that should identify a good or well behaved person. He alone in this instance should be consulted for moral principles by which we must direct our lives. The following are some of the behavioral characteristics and principles that will aid us to be great leaders and personalities in our communities. Once we follow and abide in them, we will be an asset to our community and country at large.

Giving a Helping Hand

Since all mankind are on earth because of the power of God, we must then assume that God and only God has the right to give us standards by which all of us must relate with one another.
Good relationship usually are based on voluntarily doing good to one another.

A good person must be guided by the principles of doing good to all men. He or she must abound in doing every possible good work. Once one cultivates the habit of doing good to others he or she is sure of building a profitable relationship with many people in the society.

If you seek to continually help others, you will indeed encourage others to do same and in this way you will be leading and teaching others to reach out and help others.
Our character is shown by the relationships we establish with others through good works. Good relationships are based on the good deeds individuals do for one another. That is why great leaders always step forward and volunteer to do good works to the community. The only way, though very important for one to seek or desire to establish a good relationship with others is to do good to all.

It has been seen and acknowledged that cultures that are rich in character are those cultures that give birth to individual citizens who volunteer to help others. In all things, we must acknowledge the fact that humanitarianism is the practice of voluntarily reaching out to help others who are in dare need.

It is the responsibility of every culture of the world to strive very hard to be known for being humanitarian in nature. Any culture that falls short of this virtue, will not in any way be seen to be encouraging individual citizens to take an initiative to help others when the need arises, thereby, exposing their weakness in moral fiber. Its citizens become selfish and individualistic in character.

We must always learn to volunteer. If for any reason we do not, we will always be expecting others to help us. We must, therefore, change our thinking from reaching out for a handout to reaching out with a helping hand. Any cultural group or people that learns the spirit of voluntarism, in the vain learns the spirit of bonding together as one people or group.

Work With Wisdom

Wisdom generally is the ability to correctly use that which we know, of course we gain a great deal of our knowledge through persistent study. We must however, exercise wisdom in how we apply our knowledge in our daily lives. Great leaders like Solomon will always study to acquire knowledge. They will always pray to God in their infinite mercy should give then the wisdom to exercise their knowledge in proper manner.

We must always remember that the wisdom that comes from God is always true. It is for this very reason that we must seek the wisdom that come from God.

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The Productive Character

15 April

It is a known fact that great countries are founded on the productive ingenuity of a godly and zealous people who always seek a better life as the common good of all citizens. Those who are assets to their communities are people who take the initiative to be productive in their relationship with others.

“The productive citizen of any community goes about doing good in every area of his life”. The characteristics of a productive citizen are as follows:
The productive citizen does good for his or her family,
The productive citizen does good when working in the garden and fields,
The productive citizen does good when working on a job for someone else,
The productive citizen seeks to do good as an employee of the government.
John Gimes once said, “The greatest waste in the world is the difference between what we are and what we could be”.

The productive citizen seeks to do good to others in every area of life so as to help develop the community economically and otherwise. It is the responsibility of everyone in any community of the world to be productive in order to make better societies in which people can live. The influence of a productive citizen motivates others to do the same, thereby improving the overall living condition of all citizens. When all citizens in any community strive to do good in serving others, then societies proper. The goal of every employee should be to make his or her employer successful. When this happens, the employee and others in turn benefit from the company for which he or she works.

As a guide to guaranteeing one’s job as an employee, one must make every effort to perform productively on the job as an employee.

God has given us principles by which we can be productive citizens in our community. Once we follow these principles, we play our part in developing the community to be a great place to live. It is therefore, very important to discover these principles in order to increase our productive attitude in our lives.

Be a Zealous Citizen

Zeal is the foundation upon which productivity is based. A productive person is zealous in his or her behavior. Zeal refers to the manner by which you do your job, be it for others or even government of the day. Again, zeal means accomplishing any assigned job the best you can, in the shorter possible time. There is a saying that goes “Whatever you do, do it heartily”.

Serving others begins by putting others first. If one is “kindly affectionate” toward others, he or she will fervently seek to serve others. This thought is a principles of the Christian’s holy book.

If our focus is on ourselves, then certainly we will not be fervent in spirit to reach out with service to others. The selfish person sees himself as the center of his existence. On the other hand, the selfless person who is full of brotherly love sees others first in all things. In putting his neighbor first in all things, he becomes a servant who seeks to serve others. And when he serves others, he is serving and pleasing God.

Take The Initiative.

Many people talk about doing good, whereas, others just do it. All those who seek to be leaders in their societies must be known for being people who do what they talk about doing. They must be people of action where they do what they say. No one ever could be a leader who do not have the self-initiative to do that which must be done. Again, the principle of self-initiative is thought in the Christian holy book.



The productive individual makes sure his performance in life matches his desire. He always speaks of great things to do. The productive man does what he says he will do. He initiates work without being told to work. Throughout history, true leaders take the initiative to do that which is right. They are known as people who take action. Their whole performance in life matches their desires to do great works.
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Dignified Character

13 April


Dignified character means the development and nurturing of our character in a manner that is being respected by others because of our being honest with people in the conduct of our lives. Similar in meaning to dignity is integrity is the state of being of a sound moral principle. ”it is indeed a character of uprightness, honesty and sincerity. The dignified person conducts himself with great integrity.

We need to understand that from our beliefs we give birth to our deeds, our deeds nurture our habits. From our habits we develop our character. It is then that our character determine our destiny.

As citizens of any given community, we must conduct ourselves with utmost honesty, diligence and integrity. These qualities are actually manifested through speech and behavior. All the above qualities refer to the dignity of a person. That should be the overall goal of a Christian. And the guiding principle for maintaining a dignified relationship with one's fellow citizen is. This is the only principle by which you must conduct your life if you seek a better life with others. By following this people will see you as a person of dignity in the community.

Developing of these principles should be the challenge of every person to discover skills of developing a dignified life of integrity. If we understand and apply each of these personality characteristics to our lives, we will Bethe dignified person God wants us to be. We will be the type of person our neighbors want us to be. And by developing and living by the principles of a dignified character, we will be received by all people with whom we associate ourselves, be it in our businesses or in our homes.

DIGNIFIED HEART

Charity begins at home as the saying goes, so it is with dignity which begins in one’s heart. In order to conduct ourselves with sincerity an dignity, we must begin with our inner beliefs. True dignity is the manifestation of integrity in one’s heart.

The dignified person serves others with sincerity of heart. When one for instance works as an employee, he or she sometimes has against the employer. And because of these grudges, employees sometimes steal things from their employers. This is not of course the behavior of a dignified person and it shouldn’t be for any reason.

Honesty, in fact, is showing fairness and above all sincerity toward one’s neighbor without lying, cheating or stealing. Serving an employer honestly and with sincerity of heart means that one makes every effort as an employee to make his employer successful. We must not behave like a man pleaser who does things with an insincere heart in order to accomplish a selfish goal. But the one who serves with every sincerity does his service from the heart in order to serve another.

Honorable people help others. A dignified person is honorable. He or she seeks honorable behavior with all people. Honor means submitting ourselves first to God in order to give him reverence, respect and service. In relation to our fellow man, it means submitting ourselves to the needs of others in order to give service to their needs. It is only when we give honorable respect to others, that we will be seen to serve them. We place ourselves in a position of honor when we show respect to others.

The dignified person behaves unselfishly with others. Corruption in government and society in general is a curse to the people. When corruption exists in any society, people do not deal honestly with one another. They deal selfishly in all matters of business and government in order to receive dishonest money and possessions for themselves. Corruption must be understood to destroy the moral fiber of any society. It does so simply because corrupt people always think of themselves when dealing with others. They are always thinking about what they can get out of their relationship with others. On the other hand, corrupt government officials work in the same manner. They seek to serve themselves. Greedy people will deal corruptly with others. They will always have themselves at heart and thus, will always seek to reach out and help others; they will always deal sacrificially with their neighbors. They will seek to give, but take.

The dignified person focuses on that which is good and true in others. People of integrity focus their minds and lives on those things that are true, honest, just, pure, lovely and of good report. They do not for any reason focus on evil things and that which is of this world.

The dignified person controls his or her speech. Our speech at all times reveals to others our inward feelings and thoughts. If we ever have evil in our hearts, this evil will eventually be manifested by what we say or do. On the other hand, if we are good in our hearts, others will know the goodness of our hearts by the words of our mouth.



The dignified person respects the property and belongings of others. Whoever that steals from his or her neighbor does not respect others. The thief is always selfish and has no consideration for the hard work of others who labor with their own hands to acquire what he steals from them.
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